Answers to Your Questions
Question: I feel that I was shortchanged when God created me. I’m kind of plain looking and I don’t excel at anything. I get pretty discouraged when I compare myself with those around me. Why is life so unfair?
Answer: Comparing oneself negatively with others is something that almost everyone goes through at some time in life. People compare their looks, their abilities, their lives, their blessings—just about everything—with others for different reasons and to different degrees. The end result is often feelings of frustration, envy, or discontent. Some people have just one “trouble area” that they struggle with—something they don’t like about themselves that’s a problem from time to time. Others are chronic negative thinkers who constantly battle with feeling that others are more talented, better looking, have more opportunities—and on and on it goes. Whatever the case, the Lord wants to help us overcome this mindset so we can enjoy life to the full.
God loves variety! That’s why He made everyone so different. He went out of His way to make life different for us all, in every way—our looks, our feelings, our talents, and our relationships with others—to ensure that no two people turned out just alike in every way. You can learn to enjoy that variety too, if you don’t already.
You also need to realize that God loves you as if you were the only person in the world. He doesn’t love you more or less than anyone else. He planned your life differently from others’; the situations and circumstances you face were tailor-made for you because He wants you to have what He knows is best. You are precious in the Lord’s sight, just the way you are. He doesn’t compare you with anybody else, and you shouldn’t either.
You will find that He will be able to use you more if you don’t compare yourself with others—if you don’t have your mind on what you feel you don’t have that others do. Be thankful for how God made you. If you were perfect, you would have no need for the Lord or others. You would also probably be hell to live with, because no one could live up to your standard; others would compare themselves negatively with you, and that would make them unhappy. You wouldn’t want that, would you?
How much better it would be if you could learn to accept and be thankful for the way the Lord made you, to be thankful for the many blessings He’s given you, and to turn around and make those blessings a blessing to others as well.
When you’re content with what you have, your spirit is at peace. You’re happy, you’re thankful, you’re praiseful, and you’re fun and easy for others to be around. You’ll only hurt yourself, your friends, and your relationships with them if you become resentful simply because God has made them different or given them different opportunities. Jesus loves you for who you are and what you are. Accept, believe, and receive His love.
Contentment comes from trusting the Lord that He knew best when He made you the way you are. The only comparing or measuring you should do is to ask yourself if you’re living up to your potential and doing your best to be the person Jesus wants you to be. There’s a maxim that says, “It’s not what you’ve got that counts, but what you do with what you’ve got.” As long as you’re loving the Lord and doing your best to please Him and love others, you’re tops in His book!
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