Points to Ponder: Be Kind!


Treat everyone with politeness, even those who are rude to you—not because they are nice, but because you are.

—Author unknown




Life is short, but there is always time for courtesy.

—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882)




Getting money is not all a man’s business: to cultivate kindness is a valuable part of the business of life.

—Samuel Johnson (1709–1784)




To err on the side of kindness is seldom an error.

—Liz Armbruster




How far that little candle throws his beams!
So shines a good deed in a naughty world.

—William Shakespeare (1564–1616)




How beautiful a day can be
When kindness touches it!

—George Elliston (1883–1946)




Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.

—Mark Twain (1835–1910)




If you haven’t any charity in your heart, you have the worst kind of heart trouble.

—Bob Hope (1903–2003)




Always be a little kinder than necessary.

—James M. Barrie (1860–1937)




I always prefer to believe the best of everybody, it saves so much trouble.

—Rudyard Kipling (1865–1936)




A kind word heals, but a malicious word maims.

—Russian proverb




Don’t be yourself—be someone a little nicer.

—Mignon McLaughlin (1913–1983)




Don’t wait for people to be friendly, show them how.

—Author unknown




There is no greater loan than a sympathetic ear.

—Frank Tyger (1929–2011)




When I was young, I admired clever people. Now that I am old, I admire kind people.

—Abraham Joshua Heschel (1907–1972)




By swallowing evil words unsaid, no one has ever harmed his stomach.

—Winston Churchill (1874–1965)




Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

—Leo Buscaglia (1924–1998)




You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late.

—Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803–1882)




A person who is nice to you, but rude to the waiter, is not a nice person.

—Dave Barry (b. 1947)




Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness, and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward.
Your life will never be the same again.

—Og Mandino (1923–1996)






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The Wonder of It All!

David Brandt Berg


How often do we stop to pause and thank the Lord for how WONDERFUL life is, or can be? We have so MUCH to be THANKFUL for! How much easier even our PROBLEMS would seem if we would stop to count our many BLESSINGS!–Like the beautiful blessings of love, affection and sex that give such meaning and fullness to our lives! Yet often we either take them for granted, or else ignore them, and, in our hurried daily pace, don’t take the time for them! But what would life be like without them?

“In the BEGINNING, God made them MALE and FEMALE”, (Genesis 1:28) and He had very GOOD reasons for doing so! Have you ever thought of what this World would be like without sex and the love of a man for a woman, and women for men? I can’t even imagine such a life, can you? For instance, how would we reproduce ourselves? I guess we would have had to split in two like amoebas or something! Horrors! But God, in His love and wisdom, gave us SEX! Isn’t that wonderful! Even one of the writers of the Bible couldn’t get over how wonderful it was when he exclaimed, “There are three things too wonderful for me to understand”–the last of which was “the way of a man with a maid!” (Proverbs 30:18-19)

I was thumbing through my file of newspaper clippings recently and I came across several amazing articles! The first article was headlined “Four Hugs a Day Shoos the Blues Away!” The article stated that a Dr. Virginia Satir told a gathering of over 4,000 delegates to the American Orthopsychiatric Association that 4 hugs a day will help you survive the blues, but a dozen is better! She went on to say that 4 hugs was actually needed for survival, 8 were good for maintenance and 12 for growth.

Well, she sounded like she must know what she’s talking about, so I enthusiastically tried hugging my wife more!–With wonderful results! At the moment I’m beyond surviving and hopefully by the end of the day I’ll be growing. I wonder what comes after 12 though? I guess she didn’t expect anyone to reach that level!

What a nice way to show affection one to another: With a hug or a kiss! Even the dear Apostle Paul admonished Christians to “greet each other with a holy kiss.” (2Corinthians 13:12) But sad to say, so many nations have been indoctrinated with the traditional “Judeo-Christian standard of morality” which is very straight-laced, stand-offish and cold in its ultra-rigid religious interpretations and guidelines to human relationships. How sad that entire CULTURES have misinterpreted the Scriptures and try to freeze all of society into a cold, unloving FORM with their rigid rules!

Rules, which, as it turns out, are not even Scriptural! And, as modern scientists have proven, such overly-puritanical codes of conduct are not even GOOD for people, psychologically, physically, and certainly not emotionally! How many hundreds of thousands of marriages fall apart every year simply because of a lack of showing affection and genuine displays of emotion?!

Remember, true Christianity is not just a mental, intellectual faith! It is supposed to change your HEART, and anything that moves your HEART logically has to move your EMOTIONS as well! Therefore, being LOVING, AFFECTIONATE and free enough to give HUGS and KISSES is an integral PART of obeying the Lord’s admonition to love others!

I found another fascinating article the other day, and it was about KISSING. According to a study done in Italy, a doctor found that “kissing stimulates the heart, which then gives more oxygen to the body’s cells, keeping the cells young and vibrant!”

It just goes to show that the natural desires that God placed in us to show LOVE and AFFECTION are actually BENEFICIAL and NEEDED for a healthy life! Not only are they morally RIGHT, but they are very NECESSARY parts of His plan for living!

Science has ALSO been discovering more and more how wonderful and beneficial SEX is! Now, we all knew it was wonderful anyway, but scientists are discovering more and more that sex–God’s wonderful design for showing love and having babies–doesn’t just FEEL good and leave you with that warm and satisfied feeling of complete unity with the one you love, but it has amazing MEDICAL and PSYCHOLOGICAL benefits as well!

For example, consider THIS fact: It has been discovered that an active sex life actually PREVENTS breast cancer in women because it helps maintain the right hormone balance! Researchers claim that it may prevent up to 65% of possible cases!

There is also evidence that sex can CURE arthritis, insomnia, ulcers, heart disease and hypertension! Think of all the ills we could avoid if we would just have more free and FREQUENT INTIMATE sexual relations with those whom we love!–As God Himself surely intended us to have!–SEX even helps cure a HANGOVER!

To quote Dr. Earl Marsh, Medical director of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, “If people would get more sensually involved with those they care for, they would have less illness, would sleep better and there would be fewer of them in hospitals or in an early grave! HUGGING, TOUCHING, KISSING, anything like that would do! We have found that SEX is one of the most efficient treatments in RELIEVING TENSION which is the ROOT CAUSE of so many ailments. Once the tension is gone, then the intimacy of sex continues to cure and remove all the symptoms. Sex, even just intimate bodily contact, works to bring relief to the whole body!”

And that’s not all! Dr. Thomas Hackett, Chief of Psychiatry at Massachusetts’ General Hospital in Boston, says, “Sex is one of nature’s finest tonics! It is not only POSSIBLE after a HEART ATTACK, but seems to HELP with RECOVERY! People who RETURN to a sexual life almost invariably have a better prognosis in terms of returning to work and socialising after heart attacks. It is a DAMAGING MYTH that once you have a heart attack that you are ‘over the hill’ and there’s no sense in even talking about sex because you can’t have it any more.” Dr. Hackett is a co-author of a Heart Association booklet on sex and heart disease.

So what do you know!–All these years I’ve been engaged in HEART THERAPY!–Ha! It does my heart good just to READ all this!

According to another report entitled “Sexuality in Later Life”, issued by the National Institute for the Aging, regular sexual activity after a heart attack can help to PREVENT a SECOND attack! Dr. Marsh, whom I quoted earlier, says that “the trouble with our culture today is that those over 50 have been conditioned to think sex is taboo as a person gets older. But as people get older they often get into a tense mental state because of things like loneliness and anxiety about the future. That’s when hugging, kissing or touching could bring new meaning to their lives!”

And to quote yet another source, Jessie Potter, of Chicago’s National Institute for Human Relationships, says that, “Studies in European Hospitals have shown that even a BACK RUB has made patients feel so much better, that hospitals could eliminate the need for pain-killers and other medicines, particularly sleeping pills. SEX is ALSO one of our healthiest natural resources, but too many people leave it untapped.”

It just goes to show that God knew what He was doing when “He created them MALE and FEMALE and BLESSED them and said, ‘Be FRUITFUL and MULTIPLY (reproduce)!'” (Genesis 1:27-28). Knowing how vital love and sex are for the procreation of the human race, He made it so we’d not only DESIRE it, in fact, barely be able to resist it–but He ALSO made it so that we needed to have LOVE, SEX and AFFECTION for our own PSYCHOLOGICAL well-being and PHYSICAL HEALTH!

One doctor recently wrote that “Only 15 MINUTES a day of VIGOROUS EXERCISE that leaves you GASPING for breath will keep you HEALTHY!–Sounds like SEX to ME!

So here’s to love and sex, a never-ending source of WONDER!–And it’s obvious that God INTENDED it to be that way! As David said in Psalm 139:14, “I will PRAISE You, for I am FEARFULLY (awesomely) and WONDERFULLY made; Your works are MARVELLOUS, and my soul knows that right well!”

God CREATED men and women to not only need HIM and HIS Love, but to need LOVE and beautifully unifying, intimate SEXUAL contact with each other! We were MADE to be emotional, warm, loving and affectionate, and to NOT be that way is to not be NATURAL!

As Ecclesiastes 9:9 says, “live JOYFULLY with your wife whom you love all the days of your life!”–And ENJOY love, affection and sex as even a CURE-ALL for many diseases, afflictions, tensions & troubles!–It’s GOOD for you!–TRY it!–You’ll LOVE it!–And THANK GOD for it!



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Thank God for Moms

A compilation

free-bible-studies-online-anchorMother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children.
—William Makepeace Thackeray


Her children rise up and call her blessed.
—Proverbs 31:28


To a child’s ear, “mother” is magic in any language.
—Arlene Benedict


Go forth in peace, for you have followed the good road. Go forth without fear, for He who created you has made you holy, has always protected you, and loves you as a mother.
—St. Clare of Assisi


As one whom his mother comforts, so I will comfort you.
—Isaiah 66:13


My prayer for you, mother.

Heavenly Father,
Hold my precious mother close to Your heart as I hold her close to mine.
Let her know today and every day how much I love her.
Lord, comfort her mind and reassure her
that her motherly care was everything I needed and wanted, and that I love her dearly.
Lord, comfort her body as she ages and grant her health and vitality as she goes through her days here on earth.
Bring all good things to my mother, dear God, and bless her every day, in every way.
In the name of Jesus I pray, amen.

—Author unknown


She broke the bread into two fragments and gave them to the children, who ate with avidity.

“She hath kept none for herself,” grumbled the sergeant.

“Because she is not hungry,” said a soldier.

“Because she is a mother,” said the sergeant.

—Victor Hugo


What Dinah Craik wrote about friends can be beautifully applied to mothers: “Oh, the comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but to pour them all out just as they are, chaff and grain together, knowing that a faithful hand will take and sift them, keep what is worth keeping, and then, with the breath of kindness, blow the rest away.”
—Abi F. May


You may have tangible wealth untold;
Caskets of jewels and coffers of gold.
Richer than I you can never be—
I had a mother who read to me.
—Strickland Gillilan


I learned more about Christianity from my mother than from all the theologians of England.
—John Wesley


A wise woman once said to me: “There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots; the other, wings.”
—Hodding Carter


Old-fashioned motherhood never goes out of style, because it’s all about love. I made people to need love, and I intended for them to first experience that love through their mothers. Mothers are the embodiment of love and care and tenderness—love that even the tiniest baby can feel and respond to.

Love is the best thing in life! It’s the most important lesson anyone can ever learn and the greatest gift anyone can ever receive—and mothers teach it and give it like no one else. Life would go on fine without many things, but not without mothers. Old-fashioned motherhood is here to stay!

—Jesus, speaking in prophecy

Why God Made Moms

Answers given by second-grade schoolchildren to the following questions:

Why did God make mothers?

  1. She’s the only one who knows where the scotch tape is.
  2. Mostly to clean the house.
  3. To help us out of there when we were getting born.

How did God make mothers?

  1. He used dirt, just like for the rest of us.
  2. Magic plus super powers and a lot of stirring.
  3. God made my mom just the same like he made me. He just used bigger parts.

What ingredients are mothers made of?

  1. God makes mothers out of clouds and angel hair and everything nice in the world and one dab of mean.
  2. They had to get their start from men’s bones. Then they mostly use string, I think.

Why did God give you your mother and not some other mom?

  1. We’re related.
  2. God knew she likes me a lot more than other people’s moms like me.

What kind of a little girl was your mom?

  1. My mom has always been my mom and none of that other stuff.
  2. I don’t know because I wasn’t there, but my guess would be pretty bossy.
  3. They say she used to be nice.

What did mom need to know about dad before she married him?

  1. His last name.
  2. She had to know his background. Like is he a crook? Does he get drunk on beer?
  3. Does he make at least $800 a year? Did he say NO to drugs and YES to chores?

Why did your mom marry your dad?

  1. My dad makes the best spaghetti in the world. And my mom eats a lot.
  2. She got too old to do anything else with him.
  3. My grandma says that mom didn’t have her thinking cap on.

Who’s the boss at your house?

  1. Mom doesn’t want to be boss, but she has to because dad’s such a goofball.
  2. Mom. You can tell by room inspection. She sees the stuff under the bed.
  3. I guess mom is, but only because she has a lot more to do than dad.

What’s the difference between moms and dads?

  1. Moms work at work and work at home and dads just go to work at work.
  2. Moms know how to talk to teachers without scaring them.
  3. Dads are taller and stronger, but moms have all the real power ’cause that’s who you got to ask if you want to sleep over at your friends.
  4. Moms have magic, they make you feel better without medicine.

What does your mom do in her spare time?

  1. Mothers don’t do spare time.
  2. To hear her tell it, she pays bills all day long.

What would it take to make your mom perfect?

  1. On the inside she’s already perfect. Outside, I think some kind of plastic surgery.
  2. Diet. You know, her hair. I’d dye it, maybe blue.

If you could change one thing about your mom, what would it be?

  1. She has this weird thing about me keeping my room clean. I’d get rid of that.
  2. I’d make my mom smarter. Then she would know it was my sister who did it, not me.
  3. I would like for her to get rid of those invisible eyes on the back of her head.

—Source unknown




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Secrets of a Happy Marriage!


Marriage is the most satisfying, most strengthening and most lasting human relationship on this Earth, an illustration of God’s relationship with Man! Marriage ought to be more than just sex or friendship and certainly more than a mere business partnership!–It is intended by the Lord to be the most intimate, humbling, loving and self-sacrificial relationship between human beings!

Marriages, it has been said, are made in Heaven, but the maintenance is done down here! More important than how much two people love each other or how happy they are BEFORE their wedding, is how well they talk and share and work out their problems AFTERWARDS!–And how much time and effort and self-sacrifice they’re prepared to put into their marriage to make it work!

Here we’d like to share some tried and proven tips, some “Do’s” and “Don’ts” of marriage that we pray will help you and your mate avoid some of the common pitfalls, so you can grow together in love!

THE “DO’S” (of a Happy Marriage)!

  • INVEST TIME, attention and love in making your relationship work, or you may lose it!
  • Treat all disasters as incidents, and none of the incidents as disasters!
  • When you feel there’s something bothering your mate, lovingly probe and get them to talk it over with you.
  • Share your innermost feelings with each other, but temper your honesty with wisdom to avoid hurting each other’s feelings!
  • Be sensitive to each other’s needs and try to fulfill them if you can!
  • Say “I love you!” 100 times a day!
  • Spend time with your children TOGETHER!
  • Pray and discuss together about your children’s needs, and be united about their discipline!
  • Kiss each other hello and goodbye!
  • Always say “please” and “thank you” to each other!
  • Make yourself beautiful/handsome for each other!
  • Wear perfume/cologne or aftershave all the time!
  • Husbands, compliment her! Tell her she’s beautiful and she’ll BE beautiful! Tell her she’s wonderful and she’ll BE wonderful!
  • Husbands, don’t forget to say, “I love you!” Words can sometimes do more for a woman than anything else!–Especially when they’re spoken with love, tenderness, meaning and sincerity!
  • Start the day with a kiss and cuddle!
  • Make love regularly! If you need sex, ASK for it!–Sexily! Wives, dress up in something sexy for him before lovemaking! Dress excitingly for exciting times!
  • Be expressive in lovemaking! Set the scene with soft lights and music!
  • Massaging is marvellous, a touch of Heaven from your Heavenly touch!
  • Husbands, if you want her to be dynamite in bed, you’ll have to light the fuse!
  • Wives, dress in what HE likes, not only what YOU like!
  • Be affectionate in public and private!
  • Compliment each other. Constantly tell your mate how thankful you are for them and how wonderful they are!
  • Call each other sweet names!
  • Write each other little love notes of appreciation!
  • Surprise each other with little love gifts and treats, like flowers etc.!
  • Do little favours for each other to make one another’s life and work easier!
  • Husbands, tidy up after yourself and try to make her job easier!
  • Husbands, volunteer for odd jobs, don’t expect her to do everything in the house all the time!
  • Tell him/her that they’re beautiful/handsome often and what things you especially like about them!
  • Make a point to say nice things about your mate to others in front of your mate, and also when he or she is not present!
  • Listen to each other’s suggestions and advice!
  • Remind yourself of all the GOOD qualities of your mate and try not to think about the bad ones. Pray to see the good in each other!
  • Have faith that the Lord can change your mate’s faults and weaknesses. Commit them to the Lord!
  • Remember to avoid doing things you know annoy each other!
  • If you want to have the last word, apologise!
  • Make up quickly after arguments. Pray together for the victory, especially in the middle of a disagreement.
  • Say “I love you, you rascal”, when you’ve had a fight or argument. It helps break the ice!
  • During times of marriage problems, make it a point to be alone with just each other–no problems to tend to, no work and no kids. Have a special meal together at home, just the two of you!
  • Go out together sometimes for the extra romance and the time alone with each other and the Lord!
  • Show interest in one another’s projects and work!
  • Show love and affection even if you don’t feel like it!
  • Learn to be aware of his/her “signals”–insinuations, hints, needs!
  • ASK what your mate likes and dislikes or what bothers him/her!
  • Be sure to respond to and return affection!
  • Pray and read the Bible together.
  • Put God’s will and His work first!

THE “DON’TS” (of a Happy Marriage)!

  • Don’t judge your wife too harshly for her weaknesses! If she didn’t have them, chances are she wouldn’t have married YOU!
  • Don’t think about all the things your partner is or isn’t doing for the relationship. Focus on what YOU can do to make it better!
  • Don’t dwell on the past or any past failures or mistakes or offenses by your partner or in your relationship.
  • Never say, “You ALWAYS do this or that wrong” or “You’ll NEVER change!”
  • Don’t hold grudges!
  • Don’t hide your feelings or trials from each other.–For example, if you are offended or have misunderstood something the other one has said or done. Bringing things out in the open will help resolve them!
  • Don’t nag–watch your tone of voice. Write “reminder” love notes instead.
  • Don’t raise your voice unnecessarily!
  • Don’t answer back hastily!–Think and pray before you answer!
  • Don’t take out your frustrations on each other!
  • Don’t try to make your mate “conform” to your “image” of what he or she should be!
  • Don’t be persistent in asking questions when the other is busy or not in a good mood!
  • Don’t talk about problems right before going to sleep!
  • Don’t stop talking to each other!
  • Don’t take each other for granted!
  • Don’t let lovemaking become routine!
  • Don’t embarrass your mate in public about private matters!
  • Don’t correct each other in front of others!
  • Don’t make fun of or belittle each other, especially in front of others!
  • Don’t be too proud to listen to each other’s suggestions and try them, even if they’re not an expert in that subject.
  • Never argue, dispute or complain in the presence of children–the damaging effects can last forever!
  • Don’t show disunity or argue in front of others.
  • Don’t interrupt each other when talking!
  • Don’t be too proud to say, “I’m sorry!”
  • “Don’t let the sun go down upon your wrath”–Ephesians 4:26. Always resolve your differences as soon as they occur, and especially before sleeping!
  • Don’t go to sleep without kissing good night, praying together, and saying, “I love you!”
  • FINALLY…Don’t forget that without good communication with JESUS, there cannot be much good communication between YOU! The most important thing in a marriage is for both of you to have faith in Jesus! With faith, everything is possible!–Including a HAPPY MARRIAGE! God bless you!



Source: Secrets of a Happy Marriage!



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Jealousy!–How to Handle It!

Compiled from the writings of David Brandt Berg


Everybody has problems with jealousy over somebody or something at SOME time in their life. Jealousy is a universal problem, and to be jealous is a natural part of Man’s sinful nature. Of course, it’s usually not until we feel threatened or afraid of losing a loved one’s attention or love that we begin to feel jealous.

Let’s face it, as much as we say we’re jealous over someone “because we love them”, we’re usually only jealous for SELFISH reasons. Jealousy really boils down to selfishness, pride and possessiveness. Though we may not often put our jealousy so bluntly into words, the feeling is that, “They are MINE!–Nobody else’s! I deserve them and nobody else can have them! I’M the ONLY one that has a right to them!”

While it may be true that God has put you together with someone, and you have a very special relationship of love together, it is certainly not right–nor loving–to insist that they find total satisfaction of heart, soul and emotional needs in YOU ALONE! The truth is that the one you love needs other people in their life also, and as a Christian, has a debt of love to pay to their fellow man, not just to you alone. “For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even this, thou shalt LOVE thy neighbour as thyself.” (Galatians 5:14). Others need a certain amount of their time, their attention, their thoughts and their love. And this is ESPECIALLY true in the LORD’S Work!

In society today, jealousy is often considered a virtue. Though we realise that there must be something wrong with SEVERE cases of jealousy where lovers kill one another in a fit of jealous rage, on the whole, we have been brought up to think that jealousy is a natural and acceptable part of love for someone. That if we love someone and they love us, they belong EXCLUSIVELY to US and we then have a RIGHT to be jealous over them should they show any kind of consideration or interest or–in our opinion–too much love to someone else.

Jealousy and possessiveness, many people think, are simply an awkward manifestation of “the wonderful love that binds people together”. This attitude is very WRONG. Jealousy in the sense that we want to selfishly possess and keep our loved ones completely and exclusively to ourselves is NOT a virtue, according to the Word of God! It is a SIN!

The Bible says, “Let us NOT be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, ENVYING (being JEALOUS of) one another.” (Galatians 5:6). “A peaceful heart is the life of the flesh: But ENVY (jealousy) is the ROTTENNESS of the bones!” (Proverbs 14:30). Jealousy is ROTTENNESS and is bad for not only our MENTAL and EMOTIONAL state, but, as science has proven, strong negative emotions are even bad for our PHYSICAL state of health!

Jealousy and envy also make life hell on Earth for OTHERS! “Wrath is cruel, and anger is outrageous; but who is able to stand before ENVY (jealousy)?” (Proverbs 27:4). Jealousy invariably hurts people around us, especially those we say we love the most. “Jealousy is CRUEL as the GRAVE: The coals thereof are coals of FIRE, which hath a most VEHEMENT flame.” (Song of Solomon 8:6). Jealousy can also drive people into an insane rage, so that they MERCILESSLY seek REVENGE: “Jealousy is the RAGE of a man: therefore he will NOT SPARE in the day of VENGEANCE!” (Proverbs 6:34).

Finally, the Bible gives this warning about jealousy and envy, saying: “For where ENVYING and strife is, there is confusion and EVERY EVIL WORK.” (James 3:16). This is a point worth remembering: That a spirit of “envy” (a word which the Bible uses interchangeably with “jealousy”) opens up your heart, your mind and your life to the confusion of the Devil and “EVERY evil work”!

The Devil is “the ACCUSER of the BRETHREN” (Revelation 12:10), and when you’re in a jealous spirit, the Devil whispers his lies against others in your ears and plays upon your selfishness and fears. If you give heed to such lies, soon every little thing done by the one you’re jealous of will take on a meaning which was never intended at all! You’re likely to find yourself getting insanely jealous even over small, imaginary things to the point that your loved one can hardly do ANYTHING to suit you! Most of the time, jealousy EXAGGERATES things so much that they seem much worse than they really are, to the point where insanely jealous people get jealous if someone even LOOKS at their partner!

That’s the Devil’s tactic, to blow things up as big as a mountain! And if you listen to him long enough, it will get you totally discouraged, confused and feeling sorry for yourself! Or, worse yet, cause you to explode in a volcano of selfish, hateful, spiteful emotions against the one or ones you feel are “hurting” you!

We get jealous when we feel that we’re not being shown the love and consideration and attention that we think we DESERVE! When we’re selfishly thinking of only our own personal happiness and frustrated desires, it causes us to complain. We feel like, “I deserve to be treated better. I’m being mistreated. I’m being abused.” So jealousy is really a spirit of complaint which is the result of a selfish attitude.

The selfish believe they deserve more than others, therefore they’re unwilling to share. They feel like they’ve got a right to it ALL. “Nobody else deserves to have ANY of their time and love. I should have it ALL!” This is a very real problem, because it is the inborn, sinful nature of Man to be selfish and try to keep what we think is ours strictly to ourselves, when REALLY, as a Christian, all we have belongs to JESUS.

Remember, our loved ones are NOT just “ours”. They belong to the LORD first and foremost! All true Christians, the Bible says, are married to JESUS (Romans 7:4), therefore we and our loved ones owe our FIRST loyalty, love and devotion to HIM. Our relationship with the Lord must take precedence over any human relationship or marital bonds. When you are CHRISTIANS, and you both are supposed to be serving the Lord and trying to win others to Jesus, it’s pretty selfish to begrudge, complain about or be jealous of time that your mate spends showing love and attention to others! After all, that’s what WITNESSING and winning SOULS is all about!

As mentioned in a previous paragraph, a lot of times jealousy can be absolutely unfounded. You may be totally misinterpreting your mate’s actions or motives, and as a result, you begin worrying and fearing that they are seeking love elsewhere, and that they therefore don’t love you as much anymore. But the whole thing may be just in your imagination! If you YIELD to this type of jealousy and fear, the Devil will play up your fears, tell you all kinds of lies and get you totally obsessed and make every tiny matter a major incident.

Some wives, for example, constantly worry that their husband is having an affair with his secretary, and go into an emotional tailspin if he even shows his secretary common courtesy, kindness, or appreciation for all of her hard work. This kind of unreasonable jealousy is a result of a LACK of TRUST in the one you love. As well as a lack of trust and resting in the LORD.

The SOLUTION is to pray desperately and to ask the Lord to DELIVER you from such a negative, fearful spirit. Don’t give in to it! REBUKE it in Jesus’ name every time you are tempted to fall prey to it! If you are not strong enough to resist it on your OWN, then confess your trial and spiritual battle to OTHERS and ask them to pray WITH you to set you free from its grip! “Confess your faults to one another, and pray for one another. RESIST the Devil and he will FLEE from you!” (James 5:16; 4:7).

Of course, HONEST COMMUNICATION with the one you love is essential. Be honest and humble enough to tell them if you are fighting feelings of jealousy. When you openly discuss it, you give them the opportunity to dispel your fears and the Enemy’s lies and to explain whatever it was that made you suspicious in the first place.

If you find out that your MATE is having problems with jealousy over YOU, try to be as loving and considerate as you can. You should try to make it as easy for them as possible. Imagine what it would be like if YOU were in their position, then “do to them as you would want them to do to you.” (Matthew 7:12). Show them as much love as you can, constantly reassuring them that you love them. Keep loving and praying for them and being considerate and sympathetic.

The next question is, what are you to do if what you fear does come to pass, and you find out that your husband, wife or lover actually HAS gotten involved or fallen in love with someone else? What should you do if you find yourself in such a position? Of course, every situation is different, and a lot depends on the individuals involved, but here is some basic advice:

If you love your husband or wife enough to permit them to have another person in their life besides yourself, then the problem is greatly diminished; but if not, jealousy can literally tear your HEART–as well as your HOME–apart! Because most people do NOT have that much unselfish love, jealousy has broken up more marriages than can be numbered! Usually people in such circumstances either divorce and tear the home and family apart, or else they keep their marriage together in name only, as a matter of social convenience or necessity, but wind up bitter, cold and unfeeling towards one another.

It’s really TRAGIC how so many people allow jealousy, envy and pride to absolutely ruin their relationships and even their lives! On the other hand, genuine love, mercy, forgiveness, openness and understanding have salvaged many a relationship that would have otherwise been destroyed by jealousy and pride once a mate discovered that their partner has gotten intimately involved with someone else. The Bible says, “LOVE BEARS all things, love BELIEVES all things, love HOPES all things, love ENDURES all things. Love NEVER fails!” (1Corinthians 13:8). If people who find themselves in such a situation would just look to the LORD and cry out to HIM for His help and guidance, He could give them the faith, strength, love and understanding they need in order to resolve their marital problems.

The Bible tells us, “Love covers a MULTITUDE of sins” (1Peter 4:8), and a large measure of love and understanding is definitely the KEY to solve any problems regarding our personal relationships. But for the mate who feels betrayed or offended to say that they cannot FORGIVE or understand is to say that they don’t have real love, the LOVE of GOD! Because the divine, supernatural, miraculous, infinite, marvellous LOVE of GOD is love enough to FORGIVE! In fact, forgiveness IS Love! Jesus Himself said following the Lord’s Prayer: “If you cannot forgive men THEIR trespasses, neither will your Father in Heaven forgive you YOUR trespasses!” (Matthew 6:15).

So for GOD’S sake, your LOVED ONE’S sake, and even your OWN sake, count the cost before throwing your entire relationship away in an angry moment of pride or jealousy! Jesus said, “I prefer MERCY and NOT SACRIFICE!” (Matthew 9:13). How much better to mercifully FORGIVE and try to UNDERSTAND your “erring” mate, than to dutifully divorce and self-righteously condemn them! “He that is without sin, let him cast the first stone!” (John 8:7).

But sad to say, most people today do not seem to be able to wisely and lovingly deal with such problems when confronted with them. Which is why the only GENUINE SOLUTION is to take the situation to the LORD in PRAYER! If you are saved, then you are the LORD’S child, and you know that He LOVES you. He CARES for you more than any one else will ever be able to!

No matter HOW much something may hurt you, no matter HOW difficult you feel your situation is, if you pour out your heart in prayer to Jesus about it, He can give you PEACE in place of confusion, anger or turmoil! (See Isaiah 26:3; Psalm 119:165.) If you truly trust and love the LORD, then you can have the faith that, in His infinite wisdom, He has ALLOWED it to happen for some reason. The Lord often lets things like this happen to draw us closer to Him. Everything that comes into your life is part of His plan, difficult though some things may seem at times. He says, “ALL things work together for GOOD to them that love God.” (Romans 8:28).–Even THIS!

Here are some beautiful promises from the Word of God which you can claim: “I sought the Lord and He heard me, and DELIVERED me from ALL my FEARS.” (Psalm 34:4). “Cast your CARES and BURDENS upon the LORD, and HE shall sustain you; He shall never allow the righteous to be moved.” (Psalm 55:22). “Cast ALL your cares on Him, for HE CARES for YOU.” (1Peter 5:7).

In some cases it might be beneficial if you were to ask yourself if YOU could possibly be partially responsible for the situation, because you were not sweet, considerate or loving enough to your mate, and they felt they had to look elsewhere to find the genuine love, tenderness and emotional–as well as physical–fulfilment that they needed. If so, the Lord could be allowing this situation to happen to teach you more sacrificial love and consideration, and even to draw you closer to your mate in GENUINE love and appreciation.

On the other hand, if you have done your best in your relationship, but your mate still feels the need for other intimate involvements, you should still try to adopt an UNDERSTANDING attitude. Let’s face it, it’s not infrequent that people who work together or see each other often are attracted to one another. But WHATEVER the reason for your mate’s getting involved with someone else, your being jealous and demanding and possessive is not going to help the situation. Because if you try to selfishly control your mate and angrily accuse them, you will usually only drive them further AWAY from you.

That’s why you HAVE to be able to take it to the LORD in PRAYER, because only HE has the solution! You have to turn to Him and His Word to give you the strength and faith and trust needed in this situation! His Word is a tremendous comfort in times of deepest trial! If you need more faith, read, cling to and memorise His Word, and He will give you more faith! (Romans 10:17).

If you try to just bear it yourself, it could drive you CRAZY or cause you to become HATEFUL and BITTER toward your mate. And if you let BITTERNESS fill your heart, it can wreck your life, your marriage, your children’s lives, your future and even your relationship with God Himself! The Bible warns us, “BEWARE lest any root of BITTERNESS spring up and trouble you, and thereby DEFILE MANY!” (Hebrews 12:15).

Instead of hastily destroying your relationship in a fit of bitter rage and jealousy, cry out to the LORD in DESPERATE PRAYER, and ask Him to give you the LOVE, FORGIVENESS and UNDERSTANDING to overcome this situation. None of us have that kind of love on our own, nor do we have that kind of forgiveness or understanding. But JESUS does, and He will give it to you if you will sincerely seek Him and call upon Him for help with ALL of your heart. He has promised, “PEACE I leave with you; MY peace I give unto you; I do not give to you as the World gives to you. Do not let your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” (John 14:27). “The PEACE of GOD, which passes all understanding, shall GUARD your HEARTS and minds in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 4:7).

Remember, you belong to JESUS. And your MATE, if they are saved, belongs to Him also. So WHATEVER the situation, both of your lives are in HIS hands, and He is allowing this test to somehow draw you closer to Him. When you realise that your mate does not belong exclusively to YOU, but belongs to the LORD first of all, then it becomes easier to trust that the LORD is going to work things out and have His perfect way in both your lives! What it boils down to is that you’ve simply got to love and trust the LORD!

A fitting illustration of the difference between genuine unselfish love and jealous possessiveness is brought out in the following Bible story:

Two women appeared before wise King Solomon one day, each claiming and insisting that a newborn child was hers. King Solomon, under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, put them to the test by ordering the child to be cut in two and half given to each woman. When the woman who was the REAL mother of the child heard this, her heart burst with love for her baby, and totally abandoning her own happiness and claim to the child, cried out, “Please, my lord! Do not kill him! Give HER the baby! Only please let it LIVE!”

The OTHER woman who was NOT really the mother of the child, when she heard the King’s order, said, “Yes! Cut him in two! If I can’t have him, then NEITHER of us shall have him!” Hearing these two women, Solomon turned to the soldier standing there with his sword upraised and commanded: “Do not kill the baby! Give him to the FIRST woman, for SHE is the mother!” (1Kings 3:16-28).

Which of those two women are YOU like? Are you so concerned with your own selfish happiness and fulfilment that you’d rather KILL the one you say you love rather than let them share their time, their love and their attention with others? Or are you TRULY in love with them? Do you have so much love for THEM that you are more concerned about THEIR happiness than your OWN, and would be willing to give them up–at least temporarily–if that is what would make them happiest and most fulfilled?

That’s the way Solomon found out who really DESERVED the baby! The one who really deserved it was the one who LOVED it so much that she was willing to give it up to preserve its life so that at least the BABY could be happy and live! But the one that DIDN’T really love the baby and WASN’T the true mother didn’t really care about him, only herself, and would rather kill the baby than let anybody else have it! And as a result, she LOST the child!

Proud, selfish and jealous people would rather kill or hurt their loved one than let anybody else have them–which shows and proves they DON’T have REAL love, Christian love, the Love of JESUS! They really love only THEMSELVES! Now YOU might not outright physically kill the one you’re jealous of, but “envy is the rottenness of the bones” just the same, and will slowly but surely poison and eat away at your relationship. Every little hurtful remark or comment, every bit of pouting, complaining or accusing, or just outright coldness and rejection or withholding of your affections, will work toward destroying and killing your relationship, as will all the other little things that jealous people feeling sorry for themselves do to attract attention and sympathy.

Almost invariably, jealous people try to do something in RETALIATION to HURT the one they say they love: If their loved one won’t do what they want them to, and if they cannot coerce or dominate and control them, they usually resort to deliberately and defiantly doing something that they know will hurt them or make them suffer just to “get even” and make them feel bad!

That’s what you are doing when you complain that the one you love is showing too much love or attention to others, and murmur that they don’t love you any more. In the long run, you’ll kill the one you say you love! At least you’ll kill their love for you, their faith in you, and maybe even their faith in themselves!

But whether you have a problem with extreme jealousy or just “mild” jealousy, if you allow it to continue unchecked, it could become a very, very serious problem. When people are constantly jealous–especially when it develops into an uncontrollable rage–it’s no longer just selfishness and temper; it’s SPIRITUAL, and is caused by an evil spirit! Did you know that there are DEMONS of jealousy? There ARE! And they have driven people absolutely stark raving mad with jealousy! Demons of jealousy have inspired people to actually MURDER those they claim to “love”!

But everybody has SOME jealousy. So just because you’re a little jealous doesn’t mean you have a DEMON of jealousy. But when it gets to a certain point where you just allow jealousy to completely take you over, then a demon can get control and you can lose control and even become violent and hurtful to the one you’re jealous of! So “give NO place to the Devil”! (Ephesians 4:27). Remember, even if you’re naturally inclined to be jealous, you CAN CONTROL it! Especially if you’re a CHRISTIAN! “You can do ALL things through Christ Who strengthens you!” (Philippians 4:13).

Sometimes jealousy can be a real SPIRITUAL force, and can have a strong hold on people, binding them in its chains, and they can’t seem to get freed from it. If you’ve been in the habit of yielding to jealousy for a long time, you may not be able to get rid of it by praying by yourself, so you may need OTHERS to pray FOR you and WITH you to help you get freed from its grip. If you can’t get the victory over it by just asking the Lord for help and by quoting Scriptures and talking to others about it, then it may require a Scriptural “laying on of hands” and desperate united prayer, as the Bible instructs us in James 5:14-16.

Once you realise that jealousy is not of God, and you turn to the Lord for strength and help to fight and resist it, then it’s within your power to REFUSE to have the problem, and to say, “I REBUKE you, Satan, get OUT of here! I’m NOT going to yield to you and your evil thoughts!” It’s a matter of whether you sincerely WANT the victory or not, and are willing to FIGHT the Enemy and his lies and fears and exaggerations!

God can deliver you from the demonic iron grip and bondage of jealousy. That is not to say that after prayer for deliverance you won’t have occasional battles with it, since jealousy is a common weakness which often will try to rear its ugly head again. But you will of your own free will, be able to refuse to yield to it. It will no longer CONTROL you. YOU can control IT! With PRAYER and the WORD! “If the Son (Jesus) shall set you FREE, you shall be free INDEED!” (John 8:36).

Someone once asked the wife of the famous evangelist, Billy Graham, if she wasn’t jealous of her husband’s time and attention, considering how he was away so often, and often gone for long periods of time, showing God’s Love to others. She very wisely answered, “I’d rather have a LITTLE bit of BILLY than a whole LOT of someone ELSE!”

Do YOU have that much love, that you’re willing to share your mate with God and His service? So, like Mrs. Graham, you can say, “I’d rather have even a LITTLE bit of him than a whole lot of someone else”? If so, God will bless you! Because that’s REAL Christian love!

May God bless and strengthen you with His wonderful Love! And FREE you from jealousy! In Jesus’ name, amen!




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Can You Tame Your Tongue?

Compiled from the writings of David Brandt Berg


Have you ever thought much about your tongue? It’s really an amazing little member! It’s such a wee, small thing, only about three or four inches long and a couple of inches wide, yet it can cause complete havoc and wreck your whole day and your relationships with others if it gets loose! Of all the weapons of warfare, the tongue has been the most destructive!–That is, a tongue out of control, an unkind tongue, a bitter tongue, a tongue that says harsh critical things and lashes out at others.

When a bad tongue is turned loose, EVERYBODY suffers! As the Bible says, “The tongue is a small part of the body, but what great damage it can do! Consider how a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. The tongue also is a flame of fire, full of wickedness among the parts of the body! It can corrupt the whole person, set the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by Hell!” (James 3:5,6).

But on the other hand, “A WHOLESOME tongue is a tree of LIFE.” (Proverbs 15:4). Your tongue can be inspired by HEAVEN instead of being set afire by Hell! You can comfort, strengthen, encourage, inspire and uplift others with your tongue by speaking words of love, wisdom and encouragement!–GOD’S Words!

Solomon said, “The tongue has the power of LIFE and DEATH.” (Proverbs 18:21). Think of that! The words formed by your tongue are REAL THINGS! They can BLESS or CURSE, they can lift up or knock down, they can save or damn! The old saying “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me”, is not true at all! Some time ago a girl named Jesse Pepper, 18 years of age, was convicted of manslaughter because through her malicious gossip about a girl by the name of Mary Ellen, Mary Ellen was so hurt and discouraged that she committed suicide! It was called a “gossip slaying” because Mary took her life as a result of the gossip.

That’s an extreme example, of course, but honestly now, is it THAT extreme? Have there ever been times when you’ve felt so LOW and DISCOURAGED that you felt like DYING because of someone’s cruel, unkind words? Or maybe YOU have wounded someone ELSE that way! Let’s face it, we’ve all been guilty at some time or another of dealing blows with our words, and there’s been many a time when we have wounded someone with our tongue. Maybe unintentionally, maybe intended in fun, but unkind just the same, leaving a wound in someone’s heart.

What a pity that we should ever wound a heart that may already be close to breaking, that may already be carrying a heavy burden that we don’t know anything about! Maybe at that very moment they were longing for some kind word of encouragement, but instead our cutting words wounded deeply and left an ugly scar.

As the words to this old poem say:

“If I knew that a word of mine,
A word not kind and true,
Might leave its trace
On a loved one’s face,
I don’t think I’d speak it,
Would YOU?

If I knew the sting of a word
Might linger and leave its mark,
With a deep dark scar
On a loved one’s heart,
I don’t think I’d speak that word,
Would YOU?”

But sadly, we often DO, and it only takes one sentence hastily spoken to start things going wrong, doesn’t it? So how can we guard against that thoughtless unkind word that can leap so quickly from the lips? What can we do to tame our tongues? Well, try as we may, there’s often nothing much that we can do! The Bible says, “All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by man. But NO man can tame the TONGUE!” (James 3:8). Only GOD can tame it! For “with MAN it is IMPOSSIBLE, but with GOD, ALL things are POSSIBLE” (Matthew 19:26), even the control of our tongues! That’s the ONLY way to tame the tongue, by allowing GOD to change our HEARTS, “for out of the abundance of the HEART the MOUTH SPEAKS.” (Matthew 12:34). If your heart is overflowing with God’s Love, then the words of your mouth will be filled with love and tender compassion, because “God IS Love!” (1John 4:8).

There’s only one way to change the untamed tongue, and that is to change the SPIRIT that CONTROLS it! You can never control it yourself. JESUS is the only true source of love, kindness, goodness and sweetness, and as you allow Jesus to take control of your life, He also takes control of your tongue. His Spirit in you will inspire you and even speak through you His wonderful words of love, light and life!

Do you faithfully read and study God’s Word? His Words can’t very well abide in you unless you read them, can they? Do you take time for prayer, spending time loving Jesus and waiting in His presence? If you don’t do this, then your words will lack the power, inspiration and life that only HE can give! “There is a spirit in Man, and the inspiration of the Almighty giveth him understanding.” (Job 32:8). But if you neglect to spend time with Him, your words will come out as insincere, powerless and spiritually dead. Or even worse, they’ll be sharp, cutting, unkind and cold, because they don’t come from a surrendered heart that’s overflowing with God’s LOVE!

Your tone of voice can’t have love or sweetness in it if there’s no sweetness or love in your HEART. There’ll be an emptiness, a hollowness, and people will be able to sense it. Jesus teaches that our words reveal the characters of our hearts. How TRUE that is! WHATEVER the quality of your heart, it will be reflected in your words. If your SOUL is shallow, superficial, egotistical and mean, all those qualities are going to permeate your WORDS as they flow from your lips.

But if the HOLY SPIRIT has possession of your heart, the words spoken will be clear, kind and filled with love and light! There will be no deceit, sham or double meaning. Your words will have a magnetic drawing quality, and a rare warmth that will draw others to them. And when your heart is on fire with Jesus’ Love, you don’t need to TRY to put tenderness or sympathy into your voice. It will just BE there naturally! Your words will have a divine spark of life and power in them that can only come from the inner depths of the Holy Spirit living within you!

The Bible says, “A man has joy in giving an apt reply, and a word spoken in due season (just at the right time), how GOOD it is!” (Proverbs 15:23). And, “A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver!” (Proverbs 25:11). Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be able to spontaneously speak words of love and encouragement and helpfulness to those who need them at just the right moment and just the right way, with lasting effect? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be able to speak words of faith and comfort that will be eternally written in others’ memories and bear an abundance of good fruit in their lives? Then just open your heart to JESUS, yield yourself completely to Him, and ask Him to come in and fill you with His Holy Spirit!

Then read His WORD, the BIBLE, and bury the most beautiful, loving and profound Words in the World deep into your heart so that they will be able to flow forth upon others! Then you’re BOUND to speak with love because “God IS Love!” (1John 4:8). “He who believes in Me, out from his innermost being, streams and rivers of LIVING WATER shall flow continuously!” (John 7:38). Such wonderful words of life and love flow from the tongue of the one who has surrendered his heart to Jesus!–Have YOU?


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To be “faithful unto death,” just be faithful today.

The best thing that we could possibly ask of the Lord for ourselves is that we will be faithful. “Be faithful unto death,” He says, “and I will give you a crown of life” (Revelation 2:10 KJV).

When you think about trying to be faithful for the rest of your life, that seems impossible. That’s just too big; you’ll never make it. But what about today? You may have had your trials and tests, you may have gotten discouraged, you may have made mistakes, but have you still got your faith today?—Then you’re full of faith. You’ve been faithful today.

You can only live one day at a time, so you can only be faithful one day at a time. Don’t worry about when you weren’t faithful yesterday or whether you’re going to be faithful tomorrow, but do your best to be faithful today. Just be faithful one day at a time. You don’t even have to have faith for a whole day. The only faith you need is what you’ve got right now. Just have faith for this moment, right now, one moment at a time. Just be faithful for one moment, one hour, one day at a time, and you will inherit an eternal crown of life.

Only the Lord can keep you faithful.

Too many people think about faithfulness as being something that they must work up. But faithfulness is a result of faith, and faith is a gift of God. You just have to depend on the Lord to keep you faithful.

If you feel you don’t have enough faith, read the Word; that’s the source of faith. You have to give Him a little cooperation, you have to listen, you have to read, you have to obey, but that’s the easy part. It’s His job to keep you faithful, full of faith, which comes from Him!

So quit trying so hard! Quit worrying about it! Quit trying to work it up or even pray it down! Trust the Lord and don’t worry. He’ll give you all the faith you need!

“Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling, and to present you faultless before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy, to God our Savior” (Jude 24-25), commit your way, your life, your mind, your thoughts, your time! “I know whom I have believed and am persuaded that He is able to keep what I have committed to Him” (2 Timothy 1:12). Praise the Lord! Only He can do it!

Faithfulness in little things is a great thing.

Never belittle any task that the Lord has given you, because even things that may seem little are important to Him. You may think that what you’re doing now isn’t very important, but you just might be in school for something that’s more important than you realize. The Lord tests you first with little things, and the more He finds He can trust you with, the more He gives you. He knows that if you’ll do little things diligently, faithfully, and well, then He can trust you with big things. Jesus said, “He that is faithful in what is least is faithful also in much” (Luke 16:10).

Little things are big in God’s eyes. God runs the whole world on small things, and He judges us by small things. The world and the entire universe and God’s kingdom are made up of small things. Without the small things, none of the big things would be here.

(Prayer:) Help us, Lord, to learn how important the little things are, and help us not to fail in even the least of them. Your Word says, “It is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful” (1 Corinthians 4:2)—full of faith and faithful at their tasks. Help us to be faithful in all things, small and great.

* * *

Be thou faithful unto death, and I will give thee a crown of life.
–Revelation 2:10b

Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy Lord.
–Matthew 25:23

Hold that fast which thou hast, that no man take thy crown.
–Revelation 3:11b

He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much: and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much.
–Luke 16:10

It is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful.
–1 Corinthians 4:2

Not slothful in business; [but] fervent in spirit; serving the Lord.
–Romans 12:11

Let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
–Galatians 6:9

Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
–Ephesians 5:16

A faithful man shall abound with blessings.
–Proverbs 28:20a


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The Face of Love

A compilation

free-bible-studies-online-anchorLife is not fair. Job understood this when he said, “Man that is born of woman is of few days and full of trouble.” (Job 14:1) In a country that is as rich as ours, millions of people go to bed hungry every night. That is, if they are lucky enough to have a bed or a home, for that matter. The amazing thing is, many people blame God for the misfortunes of humanity.

On a very cold, winter’s day, a young girl stood on a busy street corner begging for food, money, or whatever she could get. She stood there cold and shivering as vicious winds penetrated her thin, tattered clothes. Hundreds of people walked past her but only a few dared to look in her direction. A well-dressed, prosperous looking gentleman looked at the young girl and shook his head before getting into his expensive automobile. When he arrived at his huge, warm, luxurious home, he sat down at the dinner table with his family and began to feast on a meal that was fit for a king.

After eating his dessert, his mind went back to the hungry little girl that he had seen earlier. As he thought about her thin, dirty, shivering body, he started questioning God for allowing such conditions to exist. He said, “God, how can you let this happen? Why don’t you do something to help that little girl?” He heard God responding to his question with the words, “I did. I created you.”

God blesses us so that we can bless others. But instead, too many people have subscribed to the philosophy, “I got mine. You get yours.” They don’t care if you have enough food as long as their refrigerator is full. They don’t care if gangs terrorize your neighborhood as long as their community is safe. They don’t care if you have health care as long as their family is insured. There are a lot of problems in this world. But God has already done what He needs to do to solve them. He created you.

—Burton Barr Jr.

Who is my neighbor?

“Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself,” Jesus said. “Who is my neighbor?” they asked Him. And with the story of the good Samaritan, He tried to show them that it is anyone who needs our help, regardless of their race, creed, color, nationality, or condition. (Luke 10:29–37)

The good Samaritan is a wonderful story about the poor guy that got beat up along the road by thieves, and the good Samaritan picked him up and took him to the inn and told the innkeeper, “Whatever you spend, I will repay you.” Who was the good Samaritan like? The Good Samaritan was like the Lord, and the innkeeper is his steward, like you or me. And whatever we spend to rescue people and save souls, He will more than repay!

“Whatever thou spendest,” He says, “I will repay.” No matter how much we sacrifice, I will say with the great pioneer missionary, dear Dr. David Livingstone, that “you cannot outgive God.” He said, “I never made a sacrifice! No matter how much I gave, God always gave me back more.”

So I think you’re going to find out you haven’t really sacrificed at all in giving to others. You’ve invested, and the returns are going to be far beyond anything you have invested. The greatest investment we have to make, of course, is ourselves, our lives and our time for others.

I believe God is going to bless every sacrifice we make, not only eternally with the souls of those we lead to Him, but He’s also going to bless us every other way in the bargain. We may temporarily look like we’re losing something or sacrificing a little, but look at later!

So we never lose by giving; we only benefit. “He that withholdeth, it tendeth to poverty, but he that scattereth abroad, it increaseth.” (Proverbs 11:24)

The person who is willing to seemingly lose is going to be the gainer. “He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain what he cannot lose.” Jesus Himself said, “He that saveth his life shall lose it, but he that loses his life for My sake and the gospel’s, the same shall save it.” (Mark 8:35) And a lot of other people’s lives as well!

—David Brandt Berg

Nothing rivals God’s love

Nothing rivals the power of God’s love. It has the ability to heal a broken heart, repair a deep emotional wound, and mend a shattered relationship. In the end, love makes all things new. The apostle Paul understood this. He wrote, “If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.” (1 Corinthians 13:1 NAS) In other words, without the love of God in his life, he was no more than an empty tin can. The same is true for us.

On a scale of one to ten, the love of God is a ten—surpassing all other virtues in importance. Love is patient and kind—long-suffering and full of hope and encouragement. It never discourages. It always builds and refuses to tear down. It is never in a hurry. It is not forceful, demanding, or self-centered.

Love waits for God’s best, whenever and whatever that may be. It does not panic in the face of trial, defeat, or fear. It won’t grasp for human solutions but always seeks to do God’s will. Love is kind, gentle, and understanding. It acts in the best interest of others, overlooks offenses, and is extravagant when it comes to giving to others.

“It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.” (1 Corinthians 13:4 NIV) It waits for God to promote and exalt. It credits Him for any personal success, while acknowledging the contributions of others. It always applauds the godly gain of another and does not flaunt or taunt, but bends its knee in humility.

Love is not rude. It is polite and courteous—even to those who are ill-mannered, ill-tempered, and hurtful. True love is never self-seeking, but thinks of others first. Love is not irritated by the behavior of others. It refuses to judge, leaving that to God. It does not keep a mental record of offenses. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It meets each day with cheer and a smile. It thinks upon good things and is happy in simple obedience to God.

Paul concludes his description by writing, “Love never fails,” (1 Corinthians 13:8) and the love of God never will. Not only does this indicate that His love will never run out; it also means that whatever the situation, the proper response always is love. When we extend the love of God to others—especially those who have hurt and opposed us—we are set free from feelings of bitterness, anger, rejection, hostility, and unforgiveness.

Learning to love God and others the way He loves you will lead you to discover places in your heart where you would never venture on your own. One thing is for sure: when you live in the light of His love, you will come to know the intimate care of a loving heavenly Father.

—Charles Stanley


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Feeding Reading: Secrets to Success with People

By Chris Hunt


The Bible is a rich storehouse of spiritual and practical advice, and examples of strong relationships are one of the recurrent themes. In fact, Martin Luther commented that the entire Christian life consists of relating to people around us. (“The Freedom of a Christian,” Luther’s Works, ed. Harold J. Grimm and Helmut T. Lehmann (Philadelphia: Muhlenberg Press, 1957), p. 365)

So what can we learn from the Bible about how to succeed with people?


Look for the good.

Whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.
—Philippians 4:8


Treat others with kindness, the way you would want to be treated.

In everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.
—Matthew 7:12 NIV


We should not live to please ourselves. Each of us should live to please his neighbor.
—Romans 15:1–2 NLV


Be gentle and kind to everyone.
—Titus 3:2 CEV


Be adaptable.

Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.
—Romans 14:19 NIV


I am not anyone’s slave. But I have become a slave to everyone, so that I can win as many people as possible. When I am with the Jews, I live like a Jew to win Jews. And when I am with people who are not ruled by the Law, I forget about the Law to win them. I do everything I can to win everyone I possibly can.
—1 Corinthians 9:19–22 CEV


Always forgive.

Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?”

“No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven!”
—Matthew 18:21–22 NLT


Be supportive.

Share each other’s burdens.
—Galatians 6:2 NLT


I am glad and rejoice with all of you.
—Philippians 2:17 NIV


We have not stopped praying for you since the first day we heard about you. In fact, we always pray that God will show you everything he wants you to do and that you may have all the wisdom and understanding that his Spirit gives.
—Colossians 1:9 CEV




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Answers to Your Questions: Working Well with Others


Q: I was recently promoted to a managerial position that I’d had my sights on for a long time, but now I’m not sure I’m cut out for this job. It seems that everything I say or do results in a misunderstanding between my fellow managers and me. Any advice?

A: Misunderstandings are unpleasant under any circumstances, but especially so in the workplace, which is often already stressful. Add the pressure of learning a new leadership role, and it’s no wonder you’re discouraged. But don’t give up just yet! Learning new responsibilities and building good working relationships both take time, so be patient. In the meantime, here are a few tips that should help.

One thing at a time. Give the business at hand and those you are talking with your undivided attention.

Listen. Hear your colleagues out before expressing your own thoughts and opinions, and never interrupt. This will not only help you benefit from their experience, but it is a way of showing respect, which wins respect.

Ask for more information or a clarification, if necessary. A lot of communication problems stem from people being too proud to say they need more background information or don’t understand the point someone else is trying to make.

Think things through. Know what you want to get across before you start to speak. This will help you be clearer, more specific, and more direct in your presentation, and therefore less likely to be misunderstood.

Don’t over-communicate. As John Kotter, a professor at the Harvard Business School and author of the international bestseller Leading Change, put it, “Good communication does not mean that you have to speak in perfectly formed sentences and paragraphs. It isn’t about slickness. Simple and clear go a long way.”

Acknowledge your limitations. Don’t be afraid to say “I don’t know.”

Watch your unspoken communications. Nearly everything you do communicates something to others. Punctuality communicates. Attentiveness communicates. Body language communicates. Your facial expression communicates. Your tone of voice communicates. Even silence communicates. Positive signals open lines of communication; negative signals hinder.

Be sympathetic. To understand others, try to put yourself in their position. Why do they think or act the way they do? Be careful not to misread others’ body language. If you’re not sure, ask.

Strive for unity. It’s easier to work with people than it is to work when at odds with them. Avoid conflicts and personality clashes by looking for common ground and admirable qualities in those you work with.

Be positive. Build team spirit by dwelling on jobs well done and progress being made toward your united goals. Focus on problems from the angle of “how can we fix this” rather than “who’s to blame.”




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